Househusband for the Day

Bloged in Baby Jed, Baby Josh, Family by Mel Saturday June 27, 2009

Joyce is in Bangkok for work on Friday and Saturday and I get to play househusband (er … yay ?).  On Friday evening, for lack of ideas on what to do and energy to deal with Jed and Josh, I decided to put them both in the inflatable pool. 

I think they must have spent about a third of more of their time fighting over the same toys, which I find quite amusing.  Josh, I have to say, really knows how to complain when he doesn’t get his way.

On a more serious note, I find it quite difficult to be fair to both boys.  I expect Jed to give in to Josh as he is older.  But at the same time, I can’t expect Jed to give in all of the time, and I certainly don’t expect Jed to give up all of his toys just because Josh wants them for himself.  So what’s a dad to do ?

Momentary periods of calm (above)

Jed acts cute (yes, we shaved him botak, again)

This watering can is mine !

This green scoop is also mine !

Both green scoops are mine !

Triumphant with the spoils of war on my shoulders

He took my other green scoop away !

Look … no more green scoops !

Busy busy busy

Bloged in Work Gripes by Mel Friday June 26, 2009

It’s been a real  busy time at work and I think for the past 3 to 4 weeks I’ve slept an average of 4 hours per night, meaning sometimes I get 3, sometimes I get 5.  Nothing very new I suppose, other than the fact that I get paid better.

Thankfully a couple of projects which I’m supposed to work on were postponed / shelved, giving me the breathing space I desperately need to work on another project which just refuses to come to a close.

Anyway, I took urgent leave in the afternoon yesterday to resolve a "mini crisis" — Josh destroying Joyce’s only pair of glasses on the morning prior to her departure to Bangkok for work.  In the short 8 hours I was away 60 plus e-mails flooded my inbox and busted my e-mail quota.

Still, I’m way better than my other colleague who discovered she had 104 new e-mails between 6 pm and 6 am the next day.

The Biggest Loser

Bloged in Life, Generally by Mel Sunday June 14, 2009

In a sign that I’m not making excellent use of my short life, my colleagues and I have decided to challenge each other to The Biggest Loser.  The rules are that we each have to contribute $50 to a pool of money, and that he / she who loses 7% or more of his body weight in 3 months gets all of the cash.  (No one seems to have given serious thought to what happens if more than one person loses 7% of his body weight over the period, which is a plausible albeit very unlikely outcome.  So much for all our legal training … I think we’ll have to submit this to arbitration).

I have to lose something like 5 kg (that’s rounded up, but pretty close to what I must actually lose to get hold of the cash).  The last time I was that light was 15 years or more ago, when I was doing NS.  Anyway, if I do lose that much weight, I wonder if I’ll finally see my abs ?  I didn’t have (visible) abs in NS, so not much hope there.

In the meantime, I’ve been eating more unhealthily than ever.  I ate my very first bowl of curry chicken noodles — in my life — yesterday.  And today I had khong bak pau (fatty pork belly) for lunch, I think for the first time in like ten years.

Facts Outshine Faith ?

Bloged in Culture, Musings, Society, World by Mel Monday June 1, 2009

My letter to the Straits Times in response to Felicia Tan’s letter was published on its Online Forum today.

Religiously informed views can make policies better

I REFER to last Thursday’s letter by Ms Felicia Tan, ‘Facts outshine faith’.

Ms Tan advances the concept of pure secularism as the superior and only rational option for a multi-religious country like Singapore, believing that this is essential ‘to ensure that no policies or public debates encroach on the beliefs or disbeliefs of any individual’.

I respectfully disagree. A non-religious policy has as much potential to encroach on the beliefs or disbeliefs of any individual as a religiously informed one. Even a non-religious policy such as on the integrated resorts will encroach on the beliefs of those who believe the state should not condone gambling, whether out of religious conviction or non-religious experience.

In my opinion, it is precisely because Singapore is multi-religious that it is necessary for a fair opportunity to be given to all views, whether based on religion or not, to be debated by any individual or parliamentarian who cares to raise them. What is essential is that this debate should be carried out respectfully, with the hope that different views will find common areas of agreement, and with the understanding that one view (or certain parts of one view) may sometimes have to give way graciously to another in the implementation of a policy or law.

Ms Tan also argues that, as part of pure secularism, ‘only logic and reason should dominate discourse’.

And that ’scientific, sociological and economic facts’ and not faith should form the basis for a policy or law.

The process of law or policymaking is not so simple.

The death penalty or castration would be highly effective in deterring rapists from re-offending. However, many of us would hesitate to prescribe such severe penalties for rapists. A clinical examination of scientific or economic facts alone does not determine law or policy.

This leaves secular values to mean the values held by the majority on a non-religious basis at a particular time. If so, Ms Tan must be prepared for the possibility that such values may change over time. What the majority perceives as cruel and unusual punishment for rapists today may be regarded as completely acceptable in the future.

Religiously informed values, on the other hand, do not shift with the mood prevailing in society, at least in theory. This is the positive contribution which religious conviction can bring to the debate and formulation of policies and laws.

This is the original text.

Facts Outshine Faith ?

I refer to the forum letter, “Facts Outshine Faith”, by Ms Felicia Tan (28 May 2009).

Ms Tan advances the concept of pure secularism as the superior and only rational option for a multi-religious country like Singapore, believing that this is essential “to ensure that no policies or public debates encroach on the beliefs or disbeliefs of any individual”.

I respectfully disagree. A non-religious policy has as much potential to encroach on the beliefs or disbeliefs of any individual, as does a religiously-informed one. Even a non-religious policy such as the establishment of integrated resorts, will encroach on the beliefs of those who believe that the state should not condone gambling, whether out of religious conviction or non-religious experience.

In my opinion, it is precisely because Singapore is multi-religious, that it is necessary for a fair opportunity to be given to all views, whether based on religion or not, to be debated by any individual or parliamentarian who cares to raise them. What is essential is that this debate should (to the extent it is humanly possible) be carried out respectfully, with the hope that the different views will find common areas of agreement, and with the understanding that one view (or certain parts of one view) may sometimes have to graciously give way to another in the implementation of a policy or law.

Ms Tan also argues that, as part of pure secularism, “only logic and reason should dominate discourse”. “Scientific, sociological and economic facts” and not faith should form the basis for a policy or law.

I question if the process of law / policy making is so simple.

Factually, the death penalty or castration would be highly effective in preventing rapists from reoffending. However, many of us would hesitate to prescribe such severe penalties for rapists, and indeed modern societies do not. This suggests that a clinical examination of scientific or economic facts alone should not determine law and / or policy.

In the above example, a common perception that the death penalty or castration for rape would constitute cruel and unusual punishment and a violation of human rights, has resulted in the imposition of more humane penalties for rapists. In other words, clinical facts are sometimes (if not always) weighed against personal values, before a law or policy is formulated.

Ms Tan would argue that these values should be purely secular. Can they ? I have just argued that it may not always be possible to derive (secular) values from a clinical examination of scientific or economic facts.

This leaves secular values to mean the values held by the majority on a non-religious basis at the relevant point in time. If so, Ms Tan must be prepared for the possibility that such values may change over time. That what the majority perceives as cruel and unusual punishment for rapists today, may be regarded as completely acceptable sometime in the future.

Religiously-informed values, on the other hand, do not shift with the mood prevailing in society, at least in theory. This is the positive contribution which religious conviction can bring to the debate and formulation of policies and laws.

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